Bondage Baby | Winter 2026
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It's been an interesting month. Laying down scene plans for the summer. Scouting locations on the East Coast, primarily. Clutch girls go in and out of the fold. It's my experience to always let them go. They will listen better on the return =)
The constant saga continues online of who is and isn't a truest domly dom. Personally, I think its much like Jedi.. Once you start making your own lightsaber .. or toys... You are pretty much committed. Perhaps that is the best yard stick. How committed are you to your bdsm lifestyle ?
I require it. I soaked it up soon enough for it to become a default setting. I want to control the room. I want full control of you in it.
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Some movies we got into this past month. If it's Boris Vallejo's art work - I'm into it. I liked Barbarian Queen for it's Gor & Conan vibes. Plenty of rapey tits out stuff.
A sword-wielding warrior, Amethea, and a few companions embark on a life-or-death mission to liberate her people from the clutches of a brutal monarch who destroyed her village and enslaved her people.
The Death of Bridget Bardot
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Artists we are watching...
It's head down and ass up. That's what we like about it. Her vision somewhat reminds me of an HR Giger biomechanical style. It would be a dream to get in a room with her art and use it for bondage.
We shouldn't need to state the obvious, but the crazier a woman is the more we are interested in what she's got hidden.
Ye has to be one really weirdo Dom.
Scene Hunting
Bellamy's Clutch is looking for a Plastic Bimbo Super Blonde for HR Giger style biomechanical breeding scene. Goopy drippy test tube.. etc etc.
Schadenfreude(Scha-den-freu-de), a German word that has caught my attention lately. Schadenfreude literally translates to “damage joy”, but it ultimately means: "pleasure derived from the misfortune of others". Of course, it has its levels of intensity, but that doesn’t necessarily mean this is a terrible feeling to be drawn to, or to experience.
I must admit that I hadn't known there was a name for this feeling before conducting my research. I didn’t even know people saw this as a “dark” thing to feel. The word itself has never even been translated into another language, unlike how in most languages you’ll have your common emotions being translated, like happy/satisfied in French is “contente”. However, Schadenfreude is just schadenfreude.
People often seem to think this is a sinister emotion that only narcissists feel. An odd sentiment, really, considering this is an emotion most people feel – whether they’d like to admit it or not. There are many reasons why someone may feel schadenfreude more strongly than others. The main topics I am interested in going over, however, are: How misunderstood schadenfreude is, how schadenfreude and sadism are not the same, and how schadenfreude is correlated to BDSM.
Schadenfreude is a normal emotion
Most people who I’ve seen talk about schadenfreude will classify those who feel a strong sense of schadenfreude as narcissists, sadists, or extreme haters. While narcissists, sadists, and people who enjoy jumping on hate bandwagons do tend to feel a strong sense of joy at watching people they deem worthy of it fail, they are not the only ones. Even the typical, average human feels schadenfreude to some degree. Everyone at one point or another has felt schadenfreude, and those who say they haven't are in denial that they could feel that way about another person's failings or misery. However, at some point, each of us has felt schadenfreude without even realizing it. Which is okay. However, because of how sinister this emotion is made out to seem, we never see the full picture of what schadenfreude really is.
What is actual schadenfreude?
Have you ever laughed or snickered at someone falling? Ever felt a sense of “I was right” when someone comes to you, upset and demotivated about something that you tried to warn them about, but they did it anyway? Have you ever felt more in control when someone starts getting mad during a conversation and you’re as cool as can be? Ever feel that giddy feeling in your chest when your rival fails? Have you ever sat back and smiled as an influencer you knew was no good, while everyone insisted that they be put on a pedestal, turned out to be a lowlife? Then congratulations, you've felt schadenfreude!
The most common instances of schadenfreude are usually the ones we don’t think too hard about. Nothing sinister, really, it's just a person feeling joy over the fact that they saw someone else fail. Some uneducated people will try to say that this isn’t a normal way to feel, though they themselves have felt a sense of schadenfreude at least once in their lives, for one reason or another.
What is schadenfreude typically seen as?
Some of the more commonly thought of behaviors that correspond with schadenfreude are stuff like: Smiling while someone is telling you devastating – maybe even life-ruining – news. It’s also seen as purposefully giving bad advice that seems good, only so you’ll be seen as a good person and always seem better than everyone in comparison, or even something as big as someone always manipulating situations just so that they are seen as the “hero” or a “savior”. I won’t deny that these are all instances of schadenfreude, sure, but these are also schadenfreude taken to its most extreme. Very few people are going out of their way to put themselves above others or to be seen as a savior on purpose. In fact, the whole point of schadenfreude is that you aren’t the one inflicting the pain or misfortune directly. So when someone is doing things to intentionally feel this emotion, they are doing so for different reasons other than just schadenfreude.
Schadenfreude and sadism are not the same
While it’s true that sadism and schadenfreude are similar, both being pleasure derived from others' pain, they are still two different things. While it’s true that people with sadistic personalities tend to feel schadenfreude more strongly, you don’t have to be a sadist to feel schadenfreude, nor do all sadists feel schadenfreude.
For starters, sadism is a personality trait, while schadenfreude is an emotion.
With a sadistic person, you’ll find that they are very deliberate in the way they say and do things. They may hit, degrade, humiliate, or even just get a thrill out of scaring the shit out of others. Sadism is finding pleasure in the pain or humiliation that you personally inflict on someone. Meaning sadists, though they might feel schadenfreude while hearing about someone's misfortune, won’t always feel this emotion as strongly as other sadists might – or even as strongly as people who don’t consider themselves sadists.
Meanwhile, schadenfreude is finding pleasure in others' misfortune from afar; i.e., not inflicting that pain personally. With Schadenfreude, it being an emotion, you can’t help but feel it when you do. A lot of people will jump to conclusions and say that this statement is defending people with dark mindsets, and they’ll claim that it’s a dark emotion that only bad people feel. This, oddly enough, is a form of schadenfreude in itself.
That person is getting a sort of "superiority high” from acting like they never feel schadenfreude, acting like they’ve never sat back and watched as others fall into a hate mob over something that they were proven right about - in turn causing them to get that “I was right, I’m so smart” feeling that schadenfreude can give. Because too many people don’t realize schadenfreude is deeper than just seeing someone fail and feeling joy at seeing the aftermath, schadenfreude is feeling better about yourself and taking joy in others' misfortune because it isn’t happening to you.
Schadenfreude in BDSM
Having gone over how schadenfreude is a fairly normal emotion, and now it is not directly tied to sadism, I would like to finish this article off by talking about how schadenfreude has found a home in the BDSM community.
As I had said previously, a lot of people think only sadists and people with "fucked up minds" feel schadenfreude. While that is untrue, what is true is that sadists and people who are dominant do feel schadenfreude more strongly than the average person. However, when schadenfreude is talked about in the context of BDSM and kink, most people will assume that dom's are the only ones instigating these interactions. This, while mostly accurate, leaves out certain subs that definitely have their fair share of fun while trying to seek out a bit of schadenfreude.
Some of the biggest examples of submissives seeking out this emotion are SAM's(Smart Assed Masochists), Break me's, and Brats. Who would have guessed that the most difficult submissives to work with would be seeking out schadenfreude? But in all seriousness, if you think about it, it’s fairly obvious; I even said it earlier. When a bratty sub is getting their dom riled up, they feel more in control. They want to get competitive with their dom. That sense of schadenfreude can easily mix with the masochistic desires of those submissives may be feeling, proving that dominants and sadists are not the only ones who crave the feeling of such pleasures.
In conclusion
Schadenfreude is a heavily misunderstood German word for the feeling you get when you experience joy from watching the misfortune of others. People have tried to make this emotion out to be a sinister feeling, or something that only evil narcissistic, sadistic people feel, when that simply isn’t true. Schadenfreude is a normal human emotion that everyone feels, and those who feel it don’t usually have any sinister motivations behind feeling it. And though there is a lot of hate for the word and emotion itself, the kink community has proudly used it to describe their feelings for certain scenes and how they like to be pleased. Schadenfreude is a feeling both sub's and dom's alike can feel for different reasons, and they don’t try to hide that fact – even if they don’t know the word for it, yet.
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